A friend of ours gave birth to twins about a year ago. She’s been just a little bit nuts ever since. 😉
Seriously, though, every parent knows how much time and energy even one child can demand, and doubling that seems to actually increase the effort required and stress generated by more than one hundred percent.
These two beautiful girls are not her first children … she has another girl and a boy … so our friend already owns many of the things needed to take care of them. Unfortunately, though, they are all for only one baby, and she has two to raise now.
For example, she has a very nice pram that worked well for her two older kids, but now needs to upgrade to a tandem stroller for the twins. Besides the additional expense, he and her husband now have had to make a significant shift in how they organize their time, as well as a change in mindset.
One of the websites our busy mom has mentioned multiple times is Parents.com. According to her, it’s proven invaluable in providing guidance on everything from how to get through the first year with twins to tips on making travel less stressful.
Another thing our friends did a great job on was preparing their older kids for the twin’s arrival, and then making sure they didn’t feel left out after their birth. For instance, they made sure that some of the guests at the baby shower also brought gifts for the three and six-year-olds, so the party felt just as much like it was for them.
They also spent a lot of time explaining to the children what was happening, especially to the younger girl, since the boy had some memory of his sister’s birth and clearly had a better idea of what was going on.
Lastly, their Dad’s company allowed paternity leave, so he took full advantage of it, and devoted a lot of that time to the older children to make sure they still felt loved and cared for. Trips to the zoo and other favorite places were a big part of this. It also helped him further bond with his kids, making the whole family a stronger unit.
All in all, we’ve enjoyed, and even marveled, at how well this couple has handled the situation, and hope that other parents can be just as successful in raising their own kids.
Next on their agenda: getting the six-year-old ready for school while continuing to care for the preschooler and twins. No time to rest, but plenty of time for love, it seems!